39 lessons for my 39th birthday

Reflections on a decade of alignment, growth + coming home to myself

I’ve officially stepped into my last year of my 30’s.

And honestly wow, what a ride it’s been.

If my 20’s were about figuring out who I am, my 30’s have been about coming home to her.

Through motherhood, business, healing, loss and growth, this decade has taught me what really matters. And building a life + business that actually feels like me.

Because success? It’s not found in the milestones.
It’s found in the moments. The deep, soul level fulfilment that comes when you choose to live on purpose, not autopilot.

What This Next Chapter Is About

As I step into this final year of my 30’s, I’m feeling clear on what I want this next season to hold:
✨ More joy, less pressure
✨ More connection, less comparison
✨ More presence, less proving
✨ More alignment, always

39 Lessons for My 39th Birthday

Each year brings new growth, but these are the lessons that have truly shaped who I am, as a woman, Mum, coach and human.

Maybe some will land for you too.

1. You don’t need to have it all figured out, you just need to start.
2. Alignment beats hustle every single time.
3. Success means nothing if you’re exhausted living it.
4. The way your life feels is more important than how it looks.
5. Your energy is your most valuable currency, protect it fiercely.
6. Rest is a requirement.
7. Sometimes slowing down is the most productive thing you can do.
8. Family time will always matter more than business.
9. You can build a business that fits your life, not the other way around.
10. Presence is a superpower.
11. You teach people how to treat you through your boundaries.
12. Confidence comes from keeping promises to yourself.
13. Balance doesn’t exist, everything ebbs + flows.
14. Clarity doesn’t come from thinking, it comes from doing.
15. The more you trust yourself, the less you need validation.
16. You can hold both ambition + ease, impact + peace.
17. Saying “no” makes space for the right “yes”.
18. Time freedom starts with intention, not a planner.
19. You can’t outsource alignment, it’s an inside job.
20. The most successful women I know honour their seasons.
21. Comparison steals your creativity + joy.
22. Business gets to feel simple, if you let it.
23. Systems are self-care for your future self.
24. You can be both a present Mum and a successful biz owner.
25. There’s no such thing as “behind” you’re on your timeline.
26. When in doubt, take the next aligned step.
27. You don’t need to do more, you need to do what matters.
28. Boundaries are love for yourself and others.
29. Money flows where safety and trust live.
30. You’re allowed to change your mind.
31. You don’t need to chase a new strategy, you need deeper self-trust.
32. Your business should support your life, not consume it.
33. Simplicity is the ultimate way to avoid burnout.
34. Fulfilment comes from alignment, not achievement.
35. Your story is your strength, share it often.
36. You already have everything you need within you.
37. The version of you five years ago would be so proud.
38. Gratitude anchors abundance.
39. Life’s too short to wait, live + build like you mean it.

As I head into this new chapter, I feel immense gratitude for every lesson, every challenge and every moment that’s shaped me.

If there’s anything this decade has shown me, it’s that life and business don’t have to be separate, they can coexist beautifully when you’re living in alignment.

So here’s to this next season to joy, to growth and to choosing yourself, one aligned choice at a time.

Renae x