When your voice feels stuck + how I found mine again

You know those moments when your voice feels caught in your throat?

Not literally. But energetically. Emotionally.
The thoughts are there. The ideas are there.
But when it comes to saying them, whether on a podcast, on social media or just out loud, you freeze.

That’s where I’ve been lately.

As someone who teaches aligned expression and visibility, it felt confronting to admit I hadn’t recorded a podcast episode in weeks (despite pre recorded episodes going out).
Not because I didn’t have ideas (my notes app is full of them).
Not because I didn’t want to connect (I missed the mic, honestly).

But because I felt … stuck.

When sharing feels scary (even when you’ve done it before)

This wasn’t about a lack of content.
This was about me.

I was second guessing every word I wanted to say.
Worrying about how it would land.
Over editing my thoughts before they ever made it out of my mouth.

And it caught me by surprise because I love using my voice.
It’s how I connect. It’s how I teach. It’s how I lead.

But somewhere along the way, the pressure crept in:

• To say the “right” thing
• To keep everyone happy
• To only speak when I had it all figured out

And let’s be honest, that’s a one way ticket to silence.

So I didn’t hit record.
I told myself I’d wait until the message felt clearer. More polished. More “helpful.”

But the longer I waited, the heavier it felt.

The message that changed everything

Then a biz friend sent me a message that hit me straight in the heart.

She said:

That was the nudge I didn’t know I needed.

Because it reminded me of something I already knew, but had forgotten:

→ My voice doesn’t have to be perfect
→ It just has to be honest
→ Someone somewhere needs to hear exactly what I’ve got to say, messy thoughts and all

So I sat down. I didn’t over plan. I didn’t script every sentence.
I just hit record.

And you know what? It felt so damn good.
Like I’d cracked something open.

How this has shown up in business

When I hold back my voice, it doesn’t just affect my podcast.

It shows up everywhere:

• Posting less on socials
• Playing small in offers
• Holding back in launches
• Questioning my content
• Doubting if I’m “doing enough”

And it builds this subtle sense of self-doubt that starts to erode the very thing I’ve built my business on: connection.

Because people don’t buy into perfectly polished content.

They buy into you, your energy, your truth, your presence.

And when you shrink your voice, your impact shrinks too.

If you’re feeling stuck too … here’s what helped me move through it

Whether you’re staring at a blinking cursor, hesitating to press “record,” or rewriting the same caption for the third time, I see you. I was you, not long ago.

So let’s walk through this together.

Start with what you need to say, not what you should

When I finally sat down to record again, I had all these ideas mapped out “value packed” things I should talk about.

But none of them felt real in that moment.

What I needed to say was:
“I’ve felt stuck. And I’m finding my way back.”

It was raw. Slightly uncomfortable.
But also powerful.

Because the message that feels risky to say?
The one that feels a little too honest?
That’s usually the one that lands the deepest.

So don’t skip past what’s true for the sake of what’s “useful.”
The most useful thing you can offer your audience is your honesty.

Catch the inner critic early

You know the voice.

“She’s already said this better”
“This might come across wrong”
“This probably won’t even make sense”

It’s sneaky. It feels like self awareness, but it’s actually self censorship.

I started noticing how I’d “pre-apologize” before I even expressed an idea, softening, over explaining, adding disclaimers.

Now? I stop mid thought.

Instead of “This might not make sense but …”
I say: “Here’s what’s true for me right now”

Because your voice is valid before it’s edited.

Let it come out unpolished. Let it ramble. Let it be too much.
That’s where your magic lives.

Speak before you’re ready

If you’re waiting for clarity, confidence, or the perfect words, you’ll be waiting forever.

Clarity comes through expression.

I’ve found that the longer I wait, the heavier it gets.
But when I just speak it, in a voice note, on a walk, into the mic, the energy moves.
The fog clears. The words arrive.

So speak before you feel ready.

Record the messy podcast.
Post the caption that doesn’t tie up perfectly.
Write the thought as it comes.

It doesn’t have to be polished.
It just has to be true.

Anchor into why it matters

Here’s the reframe that helps me every time I start spiralling into self doubt:

This isn’t about me.

Yes, it’s my voice.
Yes, it’s my story.

But the reason I share it?
Is because someone needs to hear it.

There’s a woman out there, folding laundry or driving to daycare, unsure about her next step in business and your words might be the exact thing that reminds her of her power.

When I remember that, I stop trying to say it perfectly and just focus on saying it at all.

Let someone reflect your power back to you

Sometimes, the only thing standing between you and your voice … is your own head.

And in those moments? You need someone who sees you clearly.

For me, that was a biz friend.
Her words were simple but soul shaking:

“Your voice is powerful. You just need to use it.”

It cracked me open.

Because we forget. We downplay. We question.

But the people who’ve felt our work?
Who’ve been changed by our words?
They don’t forget.

So if you’re doubting right now, borrow belief.

Lean into your community.
Ask someone what they love about your content.
Read old client messages.
Revisit that testimonial that made you cry.

And if no one’s said it to you recently, let me be the one:

Your voice matters. Your story is enough. And you’re more impactful than you know.

I’d love to know, what’s one thing you’ve been holding back from saying or sharing? DM me over on Insta.